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How to Overcome Jealousy: Understanding the Psychology and Solutions
The Origins of Jealousy: How Early Experiences and Self-Perception Shape Our Emotions
Jealousy. A feeling that can haunt us all — sometimes as a fleeting sting, other times as an overwhelming wave. You might feel it when your partner is late or when a colleague is praised for something you secretly wished for. But sometimes, jealousy strikes deeper — it tests relationships and leads to painful conflicts.
I’ve experienced this firsthand: When I discovered the image of a completely exposed woman on my then-partner’s phone, it felt like a slap in the face. The certainty that he had cheated on me tore me apart. But what broke me even more was this uncontrollable, destructive feeling of jealousy that raged like a wild storm inside me. It wasn’t just an emotion — it was a roaring inferno that consumed me completely. I couldn’t control anything, not even myself. Rage, pure rage, coursed through my body, and the sense of defeat wouldn’t let go of me. The strangeness, the betrayal, the mere thought of him being with her burned me from the inside out.
In my utter helplessness and boundless fury, I let go of all control. I reacted catastrophically. Everything I could get my hands on was destroyed — memories, dreams I had invested in this relationship. But the worst part was how I broke…
